Low key praise

 

A number of years ago I was called into a job. The computer network was going nuts and unusable, other specialists had failed to find the fault. After a number of hours, I was able to locate the cause. I wandered off to management and told them everything was fine. It was during a staff meeting. The whole room erupted in applause and thanks.

20 years later I still remember that horrific moment.

I love praise but moments like that terrify me. Even someone close to me, I have zero clue how to react. I spent so many years with so little praise it’s a foreign thing to me. But I love it even still.

So, what do you do with someone who loves praise but has a problem with it? I had to sit down and think about it for a bit and the answer is fairly simple. Keep doing it, but low key. Also do it in a way that does not solicit a response.

For example, if they cook dinner, walk out with the plates, “that was great” as you walk out.

Maybe they buy you a favorite food. “wooo, I love these” as you tuck into it.

Staring at them “wow, you are the greatest, I love you so much” is eliciting a response and it becomes awkward.

The ego of a man

 

I have discovered an awesome new range of feminine hygiene products. The ultimate in comfort.

Ok, now I have scared off the men……

I’ll let you into a secret. The most sensitive thing on a man isn’t his balls, it’s actually his ego. He won’t admit it because hes tough you know. If you constantly put a guy down or complain about what hes doing he will give up. He will stop. Then he will drift away.

Fill him with praise, boost his ego, and watch him start to move mountains for you.

What does a woman want, How do you become attractive

 

What does a woman want?

 

She will tell you it’s loyalty, honesty, openness and it’s true, these are the things she wants. But this is what she wants in a relationship. These are not things that will have her attracted to you in the first place.

Things that will attract a woman.

Grooming, she wants someone with a good haircut, a man who can dress well.

Fitness, someone who works to keep himself in good condition. Not necessarily meaning huge muscles and working out at the gym. But able to walk a short distance without dying.

Slightly aloof. She wants a challenge. Someone who comes at her with everything they have will drive her away.

Good at making things. Seriously, if you can knock out the odd bit of DIY and or yardwork, shes going to be into that.

Confidence, if you are confident in who you are and what you do, that’s gonna be like a magnet to her.

Intelligence, she wants a man who can carry a good conversation.

Humor, she wants to laugh with someone.

You don’t have to be all of these things all of the time. You don’t even need to be all of those things ever. But these are traits many women find attractive.

Despair Demon

 

The despair demon looked at me through slitted eyes.

“I have shown you your deepest hurt. Yet you smile, “it hissed.

“Thank you” I said. “It’s been a while since I saw my wife, and it was great to see my mother again”.

“But, seeing them again should have broken you” It almost howled.

I spoke gently, “Oh demon, I know illusions and I know reality. I accepted their passing long ago. It hurts, true, but it happened. And you know. I would have done it again. I don’t regret that love. All things come to pass”.

The demon was shrinking back, as if it was in pain. “Human, I will simply show you more, more of the truth of your life”.

“Go ahead” I replied “I have already been through it all and faced it, many, many times. You think I haven’t replayed it all, over and over again”?

The demon was scared now. “What are you?”

“Simple” I said. “I am me.”

Feisty

Feisty women are a lot of fun. Until they boil over and you end up in their path. 

It's difficult when you are this introverted and they come out swinging, at anything. 

I don't think I want another relationship again. 

But it's lonely. 

I'm lost. 

I'm not made for this world. 

I don't think I'm made for any world.